Y'all really saying I’m gay for making out with a dude half naked in his bed?? Like lol, am I supposed to kiss a girl? Everyone knows kissing girls is gay cause you kissing every dude she ever kissed. But if you kiss a dude you’re kissing every girl he ever kissed.
fun fact! the producer of shrek based Lord Farquaad on his evil former boss, the CEO of disney, Michael Eisner. They even look the fucking same
in real life Eisner is pretty tall. on the other hand, the shrek producer, Jeffrey Katzenberg, is quite short . Eisner, being an asshole, once infamously said of Katenzberg, “I think I hate that little midget.”
so 5′0″ Katzenberg went and turned his asshole boss into a little person named Lord Fuckwad
A long time ago I took a course on the sociology of marriage and my professor said “With compromise, you both lose. As a couple, you must collaborate on the best possible outcome.” Ever since, I never prioritize compromise in a relationship, only collaboration.
this seems like a great concept and all but. what does it actually mean?
Compromise is typically thought of as a 50/50 split amongst partner’s needs. They’re both left partially unsatisfied, but this dissatisfaction is deemed acceptable because it is ‘equal.’ However, with additional effort, many problems may be solved through collaboration; keywords: additional effort.
In collaborating, one may try to make the conflict more complex in order to expand the possible positive outcomes. This requires trust in both parties, empathy, and consideration for one another’s needs.
The objective should shift from getting what you want and ‘keeping things quiet’ to making sure your partner feels heard and considered (as they should do with you). Essentially, you must trust that your partner has your happiness in mind, and you must have theirs, instead of fighting for your own best interest.
For further explanation, Google “compromise vs collaboration.”
